Don’t aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one’s surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. I want you to listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. Then you will live to see that in the long-run—in the long-run, I say!—success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think about it.
Viktor E Frankl, Man’s Search For Meaning (via fuckyeahyoga)
i’m going to start referring to men as “our husbands, fathers, and sons” whenever i talk about issues that affect them.
Great idea. Because how else would we remember that men are human/have human feelings/aren’t born to serve our pleasure and lives?
(Source: proudlybigotedmisandrist, via moniquill)
It’s deplorable that sexually adventurous young women are constantly told they are “degrading themselves” by seeking out various experiences, that every bit of enjoyment eats away at some secret store of purity. This whole tradition–the idea that women need be preserved in glass so as not to “ruin” themselves, lest they diminish their sexual value by “giving it away”–restricts the lived autonomy of women in ways I can’t even begin to articulate. None of the slut-shaming makes sense unless you assume women live to give themselves to men in their purest possible form.
Kerry Howley (via doucheshaming)
I’m in the process of understanding where I stand with the term ‘slut-shaming.’ I think it’s important that we own the word and the disgust that is spurred by it. At the same time, I am uncomfortable with the word in itself. Why should anyone be labeled a ‘slut’ for liking or choosing to have sex? Why do we allow them to be called ‘sluts’ in the first place? Being a slut is certainly not an inherently bad thing, but the word carries a certain idea with it. Though the idea is to change the ideology behind the word, I think it’s important to eradicate the word entirely. Maybe that’s not realistic. Or maybe I’m missing the point. Just my opinion.
(Source: misogynistshaming, via otherkin-taco)
i’m sorry, but that’s just the way it is
people who benefit from the way it is and do not want to change it any time soon and aren’t sorry at all (via sailorfemme)
(Source: floozys, via brookeorella)
seriously men with an agenda use the rape, abuse, and sexual assault of women to push their own agendas all the fucking time and it’s not like leftist men are the magical exceptions to this rule
just ugh shut up and let women and other survivors speak
The relevance of this. The truth of this.
Think. With your head. When you talk. About shit. That you do not fully understand. It will make you a better person.
I can promise you that you will gain so much more if you educate yourself on something before you take a stance/try to assert your opinion. The hurt you cause others and the embarrassment you cause yourself (not to mention diminishing your credibility plus any respect people have for you) is not worth you trying to act like you know about things you don’t know about.